"Bad fagot!". My experience with the insult symbol of homophobia

Testimony of Marco P. Letta alla Viglia for the victims of homophobia and transfobia in Rome of 16 May 2014

I have never suffered acts of homophobia, not directly. I was lucky. Until now. And what I would like to do is to transmit a message of hope, even more important in a moment, like the current one, in which we are faced with a resurgence of homophobia; to an attempt, organized, to bring us back.
And I would like to do so by telling my fifty years of experience with the insult symbol of homophobia. Or 'bad fagot'. To give it to I start from afar.

You know him the saying: "break the eggs in the basket". The meaning of this saying everyone knows it, or almost. It means ruining, at the origin, a plane or a patiently prepared project. But how many know what a basket is, and above all that the "basket" in question was the one in which the hens broke their eggs for about twenty days?

For a villic of the times gone, which had the chicken coop as one of the main sources of income, the eggs broken in the basket meant: the end of the breeding, nothing to sell to the market, hunger for the family, having to start again from scratch; provided that it was possible.
For the good cottage the phrase 'breaking the eggs into the basket' was synonymous with a catastrophe, which touched it directly and deeply, a question of life or death to be avoided like the plague. For us it is just a saying. And maybe we also ask ourselves why it is said so. We lost track of the huge disaster behind us.

During my life I realized that, on average, even the fateful insult "ugly fagot" seems to be gradually undergoing the same destiny.
When I was born, if they gave you the fagot, it meant that they had identified you as gay and that, as such, you were no longer worthy of being part of the company; an excluded is made; A pariah.
A few luster later, at the time I attended high school, if they gave you bad fagot, they were not identifying you as gay but they were equating you to a gay, that is: you were no longer worthy of being part of the company, you became an excluded, A pariah, exactly as if I were a gay.

End of the university. If they gave you bad fagot they understood that you were by involving you as gays, translated that you did not follow football, that you did not dare, that you were not wrong the conjunctives ... in short, that you did not behave like the typical male, and therefore you were not worthy of being part of the group.
Regardless of your actual sexual preferences. If then it was discovered that you were truly gay, okay, then everything was explained.

Years later, in the office, the "ugly fags" are wasted, it is almost an inter -market. And they are aimed at people, usually external, who with their behavior are putting the company in difficulty. People who are out of the group, not in line, of the different, like a gay.

Lately I realized that if they give the "ugly fags" to someone and someone is or could be gay, immediately afterwards they stop, and then add: which then in the particular case. It is not intended as an aggravating circumstance. They say it to make it clear that there is no reference to sexual preferences and that the subject is 'fagot' and also 'ugly' because he puts the group in difficulty. Which then casually is also gay is irrelevant.

In short, the insult is preparing to become more and more just a way of saying. For this I want to pray. Because the gay boys of the near future when they hear "ugly fags" say, they do not feel called into question, as gay; And that to find out the original meaning of 'fagot', they need to go to read it on Wikipedia.