Can we see, without hypocrisy, the signs of homosexual love?

Reflections by Antonio De Caro, volunteer of the Gionata project

Arsen and Tigran They loved each other. But in their country, Armenia, their love was not tolerated. Due to the climate of hatred From which they were surrounded, they decided to take their lives together, jumping from a bridge.
 
Faced with an image like this - two boys who are held by the hand or kissing - it is frequent to hear alarmed, indignant or contemptuous comments. One of these could be: "How do I explain to my son?".

With a joke, I would be answered "In Italian!"; maybe I would say too "In good Italian", that is, in a familiar, simple, smiling way. If you, parent, naturally perceive a manifestation of love between two people, you can transmit this feeling of naturalness and respect to your child too.

Children and teenagers do not get confused, and they do not remain disoriented if they grasp a peaceful look in us adults. So if you don't know how to explain it to your child, in reality the question is "how do I explain to myself?".
 
In the face of the public manifestations of homosexual love, that is, it is necessary to ask where the line that separates what is socially acceptable from what is not is to be traced. It is not difficult, also because that line must be traced exactly in the same way in which we distinguish an affectionate gesture from an obscene gesture, even in the field of heterosexual eros.

This depends, of course, on the common sense and the good education of lovers, but also on the welcome that we decide to offer (and this is a cultural fact, that is, it depends on the mentality) to their effusions.
 
Give yourself your hand, hug, caress, exchange a kiss are behaviors that, if they express really affection. dedication and joy, they remind us of the beauty of feelings in a world often indifferent, when not cynical and violent. We should begrateful to those who love each otherAnd it reminds us that love exists.
 
Another frequent comment is"I have nothing against these people, but why don't they do it at home?". Superficially, I could answer with another question, that is, if we usually react in this way even in the face of heterosexual couples.

It does not seem to me that in that case we demand that their manifestations of love remain imprisoned only in the private sphere. At a deeper level, however, I would propose another reflection, which concerns the right and pleasure of showing itself, and also to tell each other.
 
Being able to give a kiss in public, without shame and without fear, is the sign that we feel not threatened, but free; It is the sign we trust our social environment; It is the sign that we perceive our gestures of love as clean and beneficial, as manifestations of our human dignity and, as such, worthy of respect.
 
The right to show itself is a human right; preventing him is equivalent to suffocating the free way of being people. And the same goes for the right to tell. Let's imagine that a heterosexual person is experiencing a particularly happy, or even particularly unhappy sentimental situation. Most likely he will try to confide and share his emotions, happy or sad, with family and friends. From this sharing, comfort, encouragement, reception may derive.

I can feel that my emotions are supported, celebrated or consoled by someone who loves me. If I tell me and be heard, I receive confirmation of my value as a human being. Denying someone this right means denying him the space of solidarity and approval of others, which make us strong and make us grow as people.

None of us would prohibit a heterosexual man/woman to show or tell her emotional relationships, also because this would lead to them the constant effort to hide, and would threaten their self -esteem. If I can't show myself, or can't I tell myself, maybe I'm wrong or wrong? Are they unworthy or unworthy of human welcome?
 
We can accept with benevolence the right of homosexual couples to show ourselves and to tell ourselves only if we have a visionhealthy and constructive of sexualityIn general, and we know that it can remain, yes, at the level of pure instinct and pleasure, but it can also evolve (as happens in most of our lives) towards the emotion and the desire for relationship; And then again, towards an intimacy that is a project of life together.